There are lots of things that contribute to our successes. Most of these things we can get from others, but there is one that HAS to come from us. Let’s discuss.

So, when I talk about success I mean it for every area of our lives. I mean it for marriage, relationships, career, raising our children, our fitness level, our finances, our happiness, our character, our accomplishments, and our fulfillment. I could go on and on with the list, but you get the point. Success in every single area of our lives.

There are so many things that effect how successful we are in any given area. Education plays a big role, right? Education can effect our careers, it can help in our marriages, it can help manage our finances, it can assist in raising our children and just about every other area. Education is something we can search for. We can read books, seek out counsel, and learn from the triumphs and mistakes of others. Education is something others can assist us with.

Opportunity plays a role in our successes. Maybe it is the opportunity for a promotion, or opportunity to grow stronger in an relationship, or opportunity to invest our finances, or opportunity to create a stronger character. Opportunity, again, can be given by others or the circumstances around us, and we can use them to grow.

But there is one thing that no one can give us and no circumstance can offer us. There is something that in my opinion,  is the greatest thing that will determine our success. It is nothing we can get on the outside, it must come from within us, and that one thing is drive. Maybe you call it ambition, or the ability to “go get ’em”, or the “want to”, or passion, but the fact remains true that drive cannot come from an outside source. Drive must come from within. Drive is what separates the mediocre from the excellent. Drive is what makes the less educated rise above those that are leaning only on their education. Drive is what pushes, and pushes, and gets tired, but pushes yet again. Drive is what keeps you moving toward a goal even when it is hard, even when it is unlikely to be met, and even when everyone else has long gone home.  Drive is what makes you get back up each time you fall down.  Drive is where the practice turns into perfection. Drive is where giving up is not an option. Drive is what makes you get up before the sun to be in pursuit of greatness. Drive is very thing that creates our dreams that in turn, creates our reality. Drive is where it all starts and they only thing that can carry you to the finish line. Drive is the one thing that everyone who has ever made history has had in common.  Drive is the fire that fuels our desires.

Drive must be in you for you to see all the success you dream of. It will keep you through hard days and set backs. It will make you continually put one foot in front of the other, even when that is the absolute hardest thing to do. It will make you stick with something  even when everyone else has given up. It will force you to reach toward the goal at hand. And… must come from within you. No outside person can give you drive. No situation you can be in can create drive. Drive is something no coach can teach, and no therapist can uncover. No one can lend you their drive. You must possess it. You must be loyal to it. You must decide you have the drive it takes. Is it in you?

-Rachel Ray